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Posted: Feb 1, 2016

FINDING SAFE ACCOUNTABILITY AS A CHRISTIAN LEADER

Part 2

In my previous article, we discussed the inherent difficulty Christian leaders have in finding safe, yet vulnerable, accountability. While it's not to say there wouldn't ever be a congregant or employee mature enough for such an undertaking, it's certainly not typical.
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Posted: Jan 25, 2016

Finding Safe Accountability as a Christian Leader

Part 1

Christian leaders live and minister inside a fishbowl where all their professional work and personal choices are constantly on public display. To function effectively, the Christian leader often operates from behind a "pastor mask". It's not that the mask is a ruse or fake, but it does have some necessary inauthenticity built-in when it comes to interacting with non-intimate relationships.
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Posted: Nov 30, 2015

Five Common Roots of Sexual Addiction

Part 5 - Mood Swings

The last common area, which I can relate to, is Mood-affective sexual addiction. This type is characterized by a pattern of using sex to placate or control the highs and lows of mood swings. The two most common medical diagnoses related to this pattern are depression and bipolar disorders. The fact is that sex addicts deal with mood issues at a rate of nearly 4 times the general male population 26% for the former, 7 for the latter.
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Posted: Nov 23, 2015

Five Common Roots of Sexual Addiction

Part 4 - Fear of Intimacy

Intimacy-aversive (sometimes called 'sexual anorexia' or 'intimacy anorexia') addicts have more trouble with "acting-in" than acting-out in the context of a relationship. This can be evidenced by behaviors that tend to sabotage or erode the intimacy in that primary romantic relationship: withdraw, withholding, blaming, shaming, avoiding, hiding, controlling, etc. Sound familiar?

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Posted: Nov 16, 2015

Five Common Roots of Sexual Addiction

Part 3 - The Trauma Factor

The third most common type of sexual addiction is called Trauma-Induced and is the result of sexual trauma. Sexual trauma means "any event that alters or damages a person’s self-perception or understanding of healthy sexuality." This can range from normal childhood experiences like “playing doctor” or exploring to actual acts of rape, incest or molestation.
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