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Posted: Jan 14, 2017

Girls Can Do Anything Boys Can Do!

This week I had the privilege of speaking to a brand new telephone client.  She was a young lady of 20 years old.  As I do with new clients, I asked her if she had received any help previously for her sexual addiction.   She mentioned to me that she had received a few months’ worth of coaching assistance.  She proceeded to tell me the name of the organization and then added something like, “But it was really a guy’s organization.  But women struggle with this issue too!  Not just men.  Everything out there seems to be for men”.  Wow.  Sadly, she is more than correct.  However, thankfully that is changing and we have come a long way since I started my journey over 11 years ago. 

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Posted: Jan 6, 2017

Embrace Your Journey

Embracing a journey is not always easy but necessary in becoming an overcomer.  Esther, the heroic biblical Old Testament character, is a perfect example of a young lady who wholeheartedly welcomed the uncertainty life had handed her.  Never once does scripture reference that she chose to be taken from her safe and familiar home, yet Esther embraced her journey. 

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Posted: Dec 28, 2016

The Gift of Pain

We rarely, if ever, put the idea of blessing into the same realm with pain. They seem opposed to one another, like trying to mix oil and water. But having worked in addiction recovery for the past dozen years, I have discovered uncanny links between them. And if we pay attention to these links, we might find that our pain can have a purpose that is good and redemptive.

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Posted: Dec 24, 2016

Dear Spouse,

As a counselor who specializes in sexual issues, I’ve heard from many wives with spouses who struggle.  Their stories of courage fill my heart with gratitude for their resolve and strength.  Their stories of pain and betrayal grip me and tear my heart in two.  If you are a female who has experienced the infidelity of pornography or other sexual sins your spouse has committed against you, I have no doubt you can relate to the pain I am describing.  I seriously wish time and other circumstances allowed me to sit down with you as a friend, and listen to each of your stories for hours.  I would love to cry with you, hug you, hold your hand, and offer encouragement and support.  Since that is not possible, I’d like to offer a very condensed summary of some of the things I’d share if we were in person.

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Posted: Dec 12, 2016

The Problem with Fantasy

The problem is that when we engage fantasy (like pornography) we use our imagination to draw us away from the real world, not to better connect with it.
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